Upgrade Your Mindset

I think we can all agree that 2020 has been a year of major transitions. From a pandemic that seemed to come out of nowhere to a crippling economy, most of us have experienced anxiety on many levels. Who would have ever thought that wearing a facemask in public would be common place? A broadcast on CBS This Morning several months ago stated that we are in the stages of a New Abnormal and the (3) T’s. Tonya and I added another T making it the (4) T’s:
  1. Triage
  2. Transition
  3. Transformation
  4. Timing
There’s no doubt that we haven’t gone through these stages since the beginning of the pandemic, but what does that mean for what’s ahead? Have we all worked on transforming our minds for a powerful 2021? I mean really, how could we, with so much going on. Being in the field of personal development with a strong focus on mindset, we have seen extremities in hopes for ‘what’s next’ or the lack thereof. We are challenged in the area of positivity and growth in the face of all of what we are seeing play out in the world and what the media shows us. So what do most people want? They want security (physical and financial), protection, freedom, happiness, good health, long life, productivity, and acceptance and to be heard, just to name a few. On the other hand, what are the blocks that stand in the way of what most people want? Fear, anxiety, unhappiness, negative thinking, health concerns, worry, unworthiness, etc., the list could go on and on. So let’s get into the good stuff! How do we transform our minds to focus on the possibilities of 2021? We have a simple process you can implement immediately called I.D.K! Ok, we know what you are thinking… IDK means I Don’t Know, right? Well it does but not how we see it. I.D.K. for us means: I – Increase D – Develop K – Kick Ass Let’s explore these acronyms.


In order to begin to transform your mind for 2021, you need to begin IMMEDIATELY increasing your knowledge in your area of interest. Some of you may not know exactly what area you want to pursue, and that’s okay. Dennis Kimbro, Ph.D., said that if you are not exactly sure what you are called or gifted to do, ask 5 people (that you trust) the following, “What do you see me doing?” By doing this, you will get a good idea of what those you trust see you doing. Explore this information as it may contain an awesome direction for you. Once you have an idea, INCREASE your knowledge. We recommend using books (both paperback and audible), YouTube and social media. The information will stretch your mindset in that area and you can begin to do what we call ‘Information Stacking’. Information stacking allows you to learn reams of information that builds upon itself, resulting eventually to expertise. YouTube is a source that we heavily use and recommend to provide you with visuals of those that you follow in your area of interest. Make a list of those individuals and study them. This will begin to provide a visual for you to utilize in your own mind. Social media provides the same visual information. You can have real time, up to date posts and messages from those you want to follow which will also give you incredible insight into what you could possibly advance towards. Know this, the goal is to RENEW your MIND with information in order to live the TRANSFORMED LIFE you desire.


Develop your strategy. Now that you have an idea of what your area of interest is and have begun information stacking, you need to develop your strategy. This part is vital as you will map out the direction you are going in. What’s important is that while you are setting the strategy in motion that you remain flexible with your outcome. In Deepak Chopra’s book, The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success”, he speaks on The Law of Detachment. The Law of Detachment says that in order to acquire anything in the physical universe, you have to relinquish your attachment to it. This doesn’t mean that you give up the intention to create your desire. Instead, you give up your attachment to how the desire will manifest. This is an extremely powerful law as it tells us exactly how to transform our minds. Remember when you were rushing out of the house and misplaced your keys? Remember how frantic you were? When you calmed down and simply gave up looking for them, VIOLA! The keys showed up. It’s the exact same principle. Developing a strategy sets in motion your plans to transform but keep in mind that you must let the outcome be what it will be, without your anxiety. This is a concept often overlooked. Anxiety, being a major blockage, will keep you on the hamster wheel of manifestation. You will be hyper focused on the strategy and goal but wondering why you can’t seem to get traction and transformation. It’s because your autonomic nervous system is releasing familiar chemicals into your body that act in opposition to what you want to manifest. This is how blockages work. So, in other words, relax and let it happen. As long as you are moving in the direction of your mindset transformation, exercise faith that GOD will bring it to pass. He is always directing your steps, as long as you let Him in and allow Him to.


Sure, this may be a shock to your system but describes exactly what you need to do. Let’s face it, up until this point you haven’t kicked ass to accomplish a newly transformed mindset. We spend a great deal of time in personal development listening to a plethora of thought leaders and change agents. One of the individuals we now listen to is World Renowned Speaker and Trainer Tony Robbins. At first, we just couldn’t get with Tony and his style of communication. His cursing and such was just too much for our ears. LOL. One day, all that changed. We were watching and listening to YouTube and the video we were watching ended and then Tony popped up. As we listened, void of judgment, we were completely blown away. He was dropping so much knowledge that we couldn’t retain it fast enough. As a matter of fact, the information was so good that we could have kicked our own butts for not allowing ourselves to listen to him earlier. We lost out on a lot of information because our mindset wasn’t in the right place. We began to understand that in order to shake most people from mediocrity, you have to do something pretty drastic. That’s where Tony thrives. He’s not interested in you remaining the same. He wants you to leave his presence differently than you came. Of course you don’t have to take the route of cursing but you can develop your own method to get moving. What will it take for you to grab the bull by the horns and make it happen? Understand that in order for you to produce different results, you will have to be shaken from your comfort zone. That’s what we do. As The Upgraders, we challenge you to become uncomfortable with your comfort zone. Do you accept our challenge? As we move out of the 4th quarter of 2020 into a new year, we believe that these (3) acronyms, I.D.K. (Increase, Develop and Kick Ass) will help you create the mindset transformation that you are looking for. As The Upgraders, we would love to connect with you as we are on a mission to UPGRADE the lives of everyone we encounter. Feel free to connect with us on our social media networks below:
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Dexter and Tonya Scott

Dexter and Tonya are Coaches, Leaders, Authors, Certified National/International Speakers, Mindset Development Trainers/Instructors and down to earth authentic people who have spent years motivating and inspiring audiences to upgrade their mindset and lives and focus on internal success.

They have presented on stages and virtually to thousands and have trained on countless platforms seeking to teach people the tools to slow down and understand the process which will speed up their success rate.

Together, they are helping people Upgrade their lives by breaking the chains of bondage from their minds, allowing them to live lives FREE of mediocrity, limiting beliefs, and the fear of failure.

They are Upgrading people to a new dimension of thinking in every aspect of their lives.